Imagine if you could insure yourself against anything ...
Of course, in a perfect world it would have been possible and everyone who has children would immediately start to think;
What would I prefer to insure my children against?
It is also a thought that the insurance company Trygg-Hansa has adopted. For a couple of years, research has been done on this particular theme. In 2010, 42% of parents said they would prefer to insure their child against poor self-confidence. It was by far the most desired insurance. (Second place came to be the betrayal of their best friends by 10%.) The
result was the same when Trygg-Hansa conducted a new survey in 2012.
The fear of poor self-confidence came to a head again, but then we were even more worried. Every other parent (50%) wanted to insure their child against poor self-confidence and it is not that strange.
Give your child time. It is the greatest gift you can give to another human being.
Time and attention.
Put away your cell phone and listen to what your child is saying.
Be responsive. Realize that you must deserve your child's respect.
It's not something that you automatically get just because you're a mom or dad.
Give your child room to discover their own talents and needs.
Don't try to move past your own failed dreams of becoming a soccer pro or ballerina on your child. It's doomed to failure.
Stop listening to what other parents are saying about their children.
Shit in what the magazines write about children. Not all kids need to be able to speak seven languages fluently at the age of three.
Stop fixing on what is "normal" for your children's age.
Explain that you can if you want, but that you should never step on others to achieve what you want to achieve. The ones you push away on the way up are the same people you meet on the way down.
Showing respect and respect is important, but you don't have to apologize for wanting something. As long as there is no risk of harm to the child, it is only useful to let them be a little with the world. They will benefit greatly later in life.
Why is she scared?
What is dangerous, unpleasant or difficult?
Giving as much time as possible to a child to learn to dress their emotions in words will greatly help her as she grows larger. If your child knows what
concerns her and she has the time and opportunity to try and express those feelings in words, then it will also be much easier to deal with the problems in concrete terms.
If you are witty and unkind, you cannot expect your child to be
happy, ambitious and creative. It is worthless to try to inspire your child to challenge the
world and realize their dreams if you just whine, complain and lie on the couch and glare at the TV.
Life is about being as good as you can be. Some people may be better than others at doing certain things, but no one is better than anyone else - just different.
But give your child the chance to talk. Children are children - but not for long. Time is not waiting for any of us, so take advantage of the here and now.
Listen to your children.
Do not interrupt them, but let them speak clearly even if it takes some time - and do not finish sentences for them.
Set your own rules that are suitable for your family or your child.
And be consistent.
Children need to hear that no is really no. Show clearly when you are serious and when there is room to be a little flexible.
Be consistent.
Make demands in the right way and help your child to dare to be himself.
It may sound harsh, but you do your child an invaluable service if you let her fight on her own. The bitter truth is that sooner or later we are all forced to make our own responsibilities and decisions. Other people have no obligation to make sure we get what we want in life. Therefore, it is equally good to prepare your child at an early stage so that no one but herself will be able to fulfill her dreams, goals and desires. Therefore, it is also better that your child gets a little worse grades, but instead develops an ability to dare to take responsibility for their own tasks and results that the "curling children" lack.
Encourage your child to ask more.
If you don't ask, the answer is always no.
But it is an art to ask correctly.
Therefore, teach your child early to ask open-ended questions (questions that cannot simply answer yes or no). It helps them develop their way of thinking and expressing themselves.
When we are children we don't even see the box.
Take advantage of it.
Encourage your child to question, think differently and try to find solutions other than the obvious by asking; "Is there any other way to do it?" or "What else can you do?"
It spurs her to become more creative in both thought and action.
No, it does not mean that you encourage your child to "learn to fight" and resolve conflicts with violence - on the contrary.
There are few activities that are better for giving children self-discipline, confidence and coordination than just martial arts.
That's pretty scary.
Think about how often you use the word "not". (It's far too often, right?)
Replace it with what you actually want your child to do. Give her an honest opportunity and show that she can actually do it instead of putting up unnecessary obstacles.
Try to understand what it is that drives her and was equally positive in her attempt to realize her ideas and thoughts.
Of course, in a perfect world it would have been possible and everyone who has children would immediately start to think;
What would I prefer to insure my children against?
It is also a thought that the insurance company Trygg-Hansa has adopted. For a couple of years, research has been done on this particular theme. In 2010, 42% of parents said they would prefer to insure their child against poor self-confidence. It was by far the most desired insurance. (Second place came to be the betrayal of their best friends by 10%.) The
result was the same when Trygg-Hansa conducted a new survey in 2012.
The fear of poor self-confidence came to a head again, but then we were even more worried. Every other parent (50%) wanted to insure their child against poor self-confidence and it is not that strange.
The world has become tougher.
Competition for jobs, schools, friends and attention has increased, just like the demands and expectations of a society where everything spins faster than ever before. Everything and everyone should be reviewed, compared and graded. But there is a lot that you as a parent can do to help your child gain amazing self-confidence:1. Your child is not you
He or she is not a mini version of yourself born with the same dreams and conditions as you. The sooner you realize it, the better for both you and your child.Give your child time. It is the greatest gift you can give to another human being.
Time and attention.
Put away your cell phone and listen to what your child is saying.
Be responsive. Realize that you must deserve your child's respect.
It's not something that you automatically get just because you're a mom or dad.
Give your child room to discover their own talents and needs.
Don't try to move past your own failed dreams of becoming a soccer pro or ballerina on your child. It's doomed to failure.
2. All children are different, not least siblings
Everyone develops different and different quickly.Stop listening to what other parents are saying about their children.
Shit in what the magazines write about children. Not all kids need to be able to speak seven languages fluently at the age of three.
Stop fixing on what is "normal" for your children's age.
3. Encourage your child to dare to take some risks
It is a necessity to dare to believe in oneself and one's own ability to stand up for oneself as one's own individual.Explain that you can if you want, but that you should never step on others to achieve what you want to achieve. The ones you push away on the way up are the same people you meet on the way down.
Showing respect and respect is important, but you don't have to apologize for wanting something. As long as there is no risk of harm to the child, it is only useful to let them be a little with the world. They will benefit greatly later in life.
4. Wasting praise and focusing on what the child is doing instead of pointing out her flaws
Celebrate all small progress, the adversities will quickly lose their strength. Then they also never have time to grow into a problem.5. Encourage your child to dare to talk about how she feels
Take time to listen.Why is she scared?
What is dangerous, unpleasant or difficult?
Giving as much time as possible to a child to learn to dress their emotions in words will greatly help her as she grows larger. If your child knows what
concerns her and she has the time and opportunity to try and express those feelings in words, then it will also be much easier to deal with the problems in concrete terms.
6. Make an effort to be a good role model
Children do not do as we say. They do as we do.If you are witty and unkind, you cannot expect your child to be
happy, ambitious and creative. It is worthless to try to inspire your child to challenge the
world and realize their dreams if you just whine, complain and lie on the couch and glare at the TV.
7. Always encourage your child to try again even if she has failed with something
But never force her to do something she really does not like.8. Encourage your child to be proud of their talents and make best use of them
Explain at the same time that it is worthless to compare themselves with others. Life is not about competing and being the best at everything.Life is about being as good as you can be. Some people may be better than others at doing certain things, but no one is better than anyone else - just different.
9. Kids love to talk - learn to really listen to them
They can talk about just about nothing for hours and sometimes it can be difficult to have the time and energy to really listen, especially if you are tired and stressed after work. It is human.But give your child the chance to talk. Children are children - but not for long. Time is not waiting for any of us, so take advantage of the here and now.
Listen to your children.
Do not interrupt them, but let them speak clearly even if it takes some time - and do not finish sentences for them.
10. Shit in what other parents and families do
Never compare.Set your own rules that are suitable for your family or your child.
And be consistent.
Children need to hear that no is really no. Show clearly when you are serious and when there is room to be a little flexible.
Be consistent.
11. Never criticize your child in front of others
It does not matter if it is adults or children. Making mistakes is just one way of learning to do right.12. Don't overdo praise and tributes
Everything your child does is not great and good. Giving exaggerated praise for something that is just mediocre and dumb just makes the performance less worthwhile. Pay homage to real success and effort, so you don't have to fool your child with false promises and create an illusion of good self-confidence.13. Don't be afraid to set routines and set requirements
Children feel good about having clear guidelines and striving for goals - so set high, but reasonable goals. To demand the highest marks in all subjects is unrealistic and stupid. It just makes your child think that she has to live up to unreasonable demands in order to feel loved and capable.Make demands in the right way and help your child to dare to be himself.
14. All Parents Want Their Children's Best
It is never wrong to help and advise, but do not fall into the temptation to do your child's homework after she has given up and you feel sorry for her. The "curling generation" parents are completely out cycling.It may sound harsh, but you do your child an invaluable service if you let her fight on her own. The bitter truth is that sooner or later we are all forced to make our own responsibilities and decisions. Other people have no obligation to make sure we get what we want in life. Therefore, it is equally good to prepare your child at an early stage so that no one but herself will be able to fulfill her dreams, goals and desires. Therefore, it is also better that your child gets a little worse grades, but instead develops an ability to dare to take responsibility for their own tasks and results that the "curling children" lack.
15. Children are questionable - make an effort to give them answers to their questions
Most parents seem to be more interested in checking Instagram, updating their Facebook and wasting their mobile than listening to their children nowadays.Encourage your child to ask more.
If you don't ask, the answer is always no.
But it is an art to ask correctly.
Therefore, teach your child early to ask open-ended questions (questions that cannot simply answer yes or no). It helps them develop their way of thinking and expressing themselves.
16. Show that you have to think differently
When we grow up, we should learn to think “outside the box”.When we are children we don't even see the box.
Take advantage of it.
Encourage your child to question, think differently and try to find solutions other than the obvious by asking; "Is there any other way to do it?" or "What else can you do?"
It spurs her to become more creative in both thought and action.
17. Encourage Physical Exercise
Not all children are interested in sports, but there are many recreational activities that help them stay fit. Why not invest in some kind of martial arts?No, it does not mean that you encourage your child to "learn to fight" and resolve conflicts with violence - on the contrary.
There are few activities that are better for giving children self-discipline, confidence and coordination than just martial arts.
18. Do more things together and start as early as possible
Watch movies together, swim and walk in the woods. Go to the theater and museum, toddler, draw and build huts together. Everything you do together creates common interests - and strong bonds for life.19. Scrap the word "not"
Recent studies show that 70% of all the attention children get from adults is denials. We talk about things that our children must not do.That's pretty scary.
Think about how often you use the word "not". (It's far too often, right?)
Replace it with what you actually want your child to do. Give her an honest opportunity and show that she can actually do it instead of putting up unnecessary obstacles.
20. Let your child be right sometimes, even if she is wrong
Do not automatically correct all factual errors. Show that you can listen to someone without agreeing or arguing against. Everything has its time - even dry facts. And a discussion does not always have to have a "winner".21. Work to strengthen your own self-esteem too.
It infects on your child.22. Share your child's enthusiasm, whatever it is
Do not downplay her dreams and plans and say that something is impossible.Try to understand what it is that drives her and was equally positive in her attempt to realize her ideas and thoughts.
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